Friday, 31 October 2008
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Most of My Friends are Girls, Does That Bother You?
Last fall, I had a girlfriend -blah!- and for a while we were great together. But there was a major problem but my now ex didn't have the guts to tell me: she was jealous of my girl friends. At first, I thought she was fine with it because I'd hang out with them with her. Sure, there were a few times I'd hang out with someone else instead of her but I thought it was fine because couples need their space plus I'm not going to sacrifice my friends for the sake of a girl. The one time this was an issue was last Halloween when I chose to go see The Nightmare Before Christmas in 3-D with my friend Shannon instead of going the Parade in the Village with my girlfriend. I told her that I'm not a Halloween person and I hate the Village and she said she understood. But later, her roommates told me she was upset about it and complained about it the whole to the parade. Um, hello? Open and honest communication, are you there?
Other such drama occured because my girlfriend would insist every girl was flirting with me (hardly the truth; I'm not the kind of guy with whom girls flirt and I don't know how to flirt myself). And the thing is, if my ex-gf would have just told me she had a problem, I would have done something about it. But she always said she understood that I'm just more comfortable with girls and make friends with them more easily than with guys. I know that if the situation were reversed, I would have no problem. Friends are friends; lovers are lovers. That's my motto when it comes to this kind of thing.
Does it bother you if your girl or guy has a lot of friends of the opposite sex? Should it bother you?
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Comments (2)
Yes, it bothers me... Should it bother me? I think so. Jealousy is actually proof of love. Now I'm not going to let it ruin my relationship if we aren't serious yet. But if you get into a serious relationship you both need to focus and spend time with the ONE person that deserves it. Do you keep other friends? Yes, but they take on a completely different role. They aren't the ones you hang out with one on one anymore... Just my two cents...
Clarification: I'm not saying ALL jealousy is proof of love, but in a relationship it can be.